O&P website and blog,
are where most of my new writing on M/s appears. The IE website will stay
online indefinitely to host the IE Essays and lili's writings.
Internal Enslavement Essays
Before reading these essays, it might be worth reading the
Frequently Asked Questions about IE which serves as
a general introduction. Additionally,
our Glossary provides
brief definitions of the terms we use, and pointers to relevant
Most of the recent writing related to Internal Enslavement has been in the
IE and O&P blog posts and the
rather than in the form of new essays here.
We suspect that
different forces are at work in men and women, just as we subscribe to the
existence of the more "vanilla" gender differences identified in
Evolutionary Psychology and other fields. Consequently, we have
limited the size of
the field we're trying to understand at this stage.
This essay is a departure from that policy and is the result of a recent
discussion on the interplay between genetics and D/s, and outlines some ways
in which one candidate theory about D/s - that men are genetically
predisposed to submission - fails to measure up ...
In this essay I aim to deal with some of the issues involved in
finding a dominant or submissive with
which to build an Internal Enslavement relationship. I will start
by describing the landscape in which your search will have to take
place, talk about some of the places in which you might look, and
then suggest ways of managing consent in the early stages of the
I'd like to discuss the ancient concept of the Natural Slave,
and how it may be updated and applied to Internal Enslavement.
To be a Natural Slave - to be a slave by nature - implies that
the individual has some inherent, innate or inborn character
trait which predisposes them to slavery in some way ...
It seems to me that Maslow's hierarchy and theory of
self-actualization has a great deal to commend it to us for
consideration of where it fits
within the M/s relationship. Before I go any further, though, let
me review the idea of Internal Enslavement. My understanding of
the use of the term is that Internal Enslavement occurs when the
following conditions are met ...
In an earlier paper, I highlighted the developmental line that
produces a healthy adult heterosexual submissive female. I
highlighted the role of temperament and environment and how they
interact to influence the personality development of girls
destined to have a submissive orientation in adulthood. In doing
so, I alluded to problems in development that can occur, and in
this paper, will expand on those ...
I decided to write this article because I have seen so many
submissives come into the lifestyle expecting
everything to be dream-like and perfect. I don't wish to
ruin anyone's dreams, or turn them from the activity, but what I
wish to do is to explain how things really are ...
Many people talk about the child inside the submissive. Their
"inner child" or the "little girl inside."
So many, infact, that there must, undeniably, be something in
it. I know that I have had far more experiences in a
"child-like" state since entering the process of Internal
Enslavement than I ever had previously ...
It's not so hard for the mainstream BDSM scene to get more public
tolerance, since they can come up
with slogans like "Safe, Sane and Consensual" or say that
safewords are always used. This isn't much good for us though,
because M/s and Ownership relationships embody the concept of
alienable rights that can indeed be removed. ...
Personally, I'm attracted to a pragmatic view of things, and to
look at the practical consequences of, say, a Master trying to own two
slaves at the same time. In particular, what obstacles does this
present to the whole Enslavement process? ...
This is a scale of how much authority over the "bottom" is
acquired by the "top". It is an attempt to describe a
system of terms which will be
useful in discussing the various phenomena
associated with SM, D/s and M/s ...
This essay review of Laura Antoniou's book "The Marketplace",
concentrates on two topics: contrasting the Marketplace culture
with the BDSM Scene, and with Internal Enslavement ...
"Internal Enslavement" and "Total Power Exchange" cover much of
the same ground. However, we feel that there are some marked
problems with the term TPE ...
The theory of "Psychological Reactance" was first
proposed by J.W. Brehm in
1966, and has become
a well established tool in the academic study of persuasion and
related psychological processes. This
essay briefly reviews the theory, and then applies it to
Internal Enslavement ...
One question that is often asked by people who've read the
Internal Enslavement website and
Frequently Asked Questions, is about the practicalities of
Enslavement. What does it actually involve
doing? I believe the answer to that question is simple to state,
although it involves a lot of work ...
In talking about the ideas of Internal Enslavement (IE) we've
noticed that it often provokes strong
emotional reactions in public forums, mailings lists and discussion
groups. This should be no suprise,
since IE is a radical but largely unfamiliar theory in most parts of
the M/s subculture and the wider D/s scene ...
I believe that some people have particular kinds of sexual fantasies that
hold enormous power to shape not only their sexuality, but also their lives.
I call these fantasies "signal fantasies" because they call attention to an
overriding psychosexual need, which can be so determinative of behavior that
they define identities and shape lives ...
So often, women who are newly aware of their submissive needs
endure a period of self doubt around the
troubling question: "am I sick?" I've seen women read the
psychiatric diagnostic manual and then ask, "Do I have
borderline personality disorder?" ...
A Master takes away his slave's free use of time. Her time no
longer belongs to her. She rises in the morning
when instructed, and her use of time is at Master's will ...
When you take away a woman's free use of her time, it no
longer belongs to her, but becomes Master's time. I think there
is no more powerful psychological experience
than that of not owning your own time ...
It is often said that Master / slave relationships contain
aspects of the Teacher and student
relationship, as well as that of Master and servant. Following the
Internal Enslavement approach, I
would like to add a third pair of roles: Counsellor and
The first step in thinking through whether and how to punish
starts with the command. What is being controlled, and
1. Do no harm. 2. Know your slave.
3. Build on foundations. ...
I believe that the attraction to being submissive very often
emerges during childhood and in many of the slaves
we see around us this has continued to grow during adolescence and
adulthood, perhaps in
relationships, perhaps only through fantasies ...