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are where most of my new writing on M/s appears. The IE website will stay
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lili and I pursued our M/s relationship from 2000 to 2008, and lili has kindly given her permission for these essays and posts to remain here, in the hope that submissives and slaves will continue to be helped and inspired by them.
Posted by lili on Sat 30 Sep 00, 10:02 PM
To live as a submissive in a patriarchal society
involves a great deal of personal power. We learn to
survive the everyday challenges with the additional
burden of a nature which does not fit well into
the "dog eat dog" mentality of life in the 21st century.
We hold down jobs and bring up our children. We adopt
suitable personas. Our lovers' ideal partner, our
parents' ideal child our bosses' ideal worker and our
friends' ideal friend.
Somewhere, hidden amongst all these two dimensional
characters is ourselves.
We are the adult (serious and thoughtful), the parent
(sensible and controlling) and we are the child
(youthful and playful).
On first discovering the name for all our feelings (and
fears) we feel joyful and relieved. We are grateful
because at last we have the answer to all those un-
asked questions. We think that we know who we are and
we believe that we now know what we need.
We believe that to be ourselves we need to release the
supressed part of our personalities. We are told (and
we believe) that we must become the child.
I believe that we need to be whole again. We need to
stop using only aspects of our personalities to portray
ideal characters. We need to be whole.
We need to be the adult, the parent and the child.
We don't have to stifle the adult or the parent to let
out the child. We don't need to stop being strong,
responsible, sensible or indeed controlling if the time
or circumstances require that aspect of our personality.
We just need to feel safe enough with at least one
person in our lives to let the child out to play.
We simply need someone who loves all the aspects of our
wonderful selves. The parent, the adult and that
Education and knowledge is the key to empowerment.
Learn yourself and learn to look for a Master who is
able to learn you too. Be strong and continue to look
after yourself (at least as well as you have up until
now). Discovering and accepting your need to feel
powerless at the feet of a Master who cares for you is
not the same as being powerless in the face of
circumstance or one who will abuse you.
Edited Fri 6 Jul 01, 9:47 PM by lili