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IE and polygyny
Posted by lili on Mon 6 May 02, 9:49 AM
Personally i don't believe that an IE relationship is,
necessarily, monogynous by its nature. That said, i
would imagine it is far easier for a Master to
initially instil the sense of security and permanence
in his slave that is
crucial to the enslavement process if he minimises the
threats to her sense
of security. Establishing a monogynous relationship is
one way of doing this.
i would hypothesise that attempts to internally enslave
submissives,
simultaneously, in a polygynous relationship would be
particularly
difficult, especially considering that one would not
only have to establish
a slave-Master-slave relationship but also a slave-
slave relationship.
Assuming that the two submissives involved (i am using
only 2 submissives
in this example) have entered the process of
enslavement at the same time,
it would be easy to assume that they are likely to hit
significant crisis
points at a similar time (although i do acknowledge
that this may not
necassarily be the case.)
From a purely management point of view this could work
constructively, in
that they would be able to help each other through
significant periods of
reactance, through mutual support and understanding, or
it could work
destructively if their attitudes and reactions
exacerbate the situation for
each other to such a level that their reactance becomes
almost unmanageable.
It would be easy to think, given this kind of scenario,
it wiser to stagger
the process of enslavement ie establish the level of
trust, security and
permanence with one in a monogynous context, before
starting the process of
IE with a second. In this way the first may be better
equipped to act in a
supportive, influencial and understanding role.
This may or may not work as a catalyst to establishing
the necessary
slave-slave relationship and would, of course, depend
heavily on the
character of each of the individuals involved.
It would be difficult to ignore the potential problems
inherent in
introducing a third person into an already established
relationship. There
would, without doubt, be the potential for problems at
those times where
one or both feel the need for the Master's undivided
attention (much in the
same way siblings develop rivalry for the attentions of
a parent.)
i don't believe, however, that these problems are
insumountable, provided
that all parties are willing to acknowledge, understand
and ultimately are
willing to work towards overcoming them.
i do believe that clear lines of communication are
essential (as with any
relationship) but, perhaps, given the increased pool of
emotions and
opinions, it would be sensible to have specific and
structured methods for
communicating thoughts and feelings as a "family" as
well as individuals
within that family.
Establishing a strong relationship between each
individual slave and the
Master in order to reach internal enslavement is
essential, but developing
a healthy slave-slave relationship has significant
importance in
strengthening the bonds between all three.
i think, if it works, an IE relationship involving
another slave would
bring a wonderful dimension to the whole interaction
between a Master and
his slaves, one which, perhaps, is unachievable in
monogyny.
Edited Mon 6 May 02, 9:53 AM by lili
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