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IE and polygyny

Posted by lili on Mon 6 May 02, 9:49 AM

Personally i don't believe that an IE relationship is, necessarily, monogynous by its nature. That said, i would imagine it is far easier for a Master to initially instil the sense of security and permanence in his slave that is crucial to the enslavement process if he minimises the threats to her sense of security. Establishing a monogynous relationship is one way of doing this.

i would hypothesise that attempts to internally enslave submissives, simultaneously, in a polygynous relationship would be particularly difficult, especially considering that one would not only have to establish a slave-Master-slave relationship but also a slave- slave relationship.

Assuming that the two submissives involved (i am using only 2 submissives in this example) have entered the process of enslavement at the same time, it would be easy to assume that they are likely to hit significant crisis points at a similar time (although i do acknowledge that this may not necassarily be the case.) From a purely management point of view this could work constructively, in that they would be able to help each other through significant periods of reactance, through mutual support and understanding, or it could work destructively if their attitudes and reactions exacerbate the situation for each other to such a level that their reactance becomes almost unmanageable.

It would be easy to think, given this kind of scenario, it wiser to stagger the process of enslavement ie establish the level of trust, security and permanence with one in a monogynous context, before starting the process of IE with a second. In this way the first may be better equipped to act in a supportive, influencial and understanding role.

This may or may not work as a catalyst to establishing the necessary slave-slave relationship and would, of course, depend heavily on the character of each of the individuals involved.

It would be difficult to ignore the potential problems inherent in introducing a third person into an already established relationship. There would, without doubt, be the potential for problems at those times where one or both feel the need for the Master's undivided attention (much in the same way siblings develop rivalry for the attentions of a parent.) i don't believe, however, that these problems are insumountable, provided that all parties are willing to acknowledge, understand and ultimately are willing to work towards overcoming them.

i do believe that clear lines of communication are essential (as with any relationship) but, perhaps, given the increased pool of emotions and opinions, it would be sensible to have specific and structured methods for communicating thoughts and feelings as a "family" as well as individuals within that family.

Establishing a strong relationship between each individual slave and the Master in order to reach internal enslavement is essential, but developing a healthy slave-slave relationship has significant importance in strengthening the bonds between all three.

i think, if it works, an IE relationship involving another slave would bring a wonderful dimension to the whole interaction between a Master and his slaves, one which, perhaps, is unachievable in monogyny.

Edited Mon 6 May 02, 9:53 AM by lili

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