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Manchester Pride 2004
Posted by lili on Sun 29 Aug 04, 3:01 PM
Tanos and i were both in Manchester on Saturday to watch
the pride march and i have to say "pride" is exactly the
right way to describe it.
It was both the sense of pride in the achievements of
the Gay and Lesbian communities and the celebration of
their spirit and diversity which had the
crowd whistling and cheering as the floats passed by.
i do like the carnival atmosphere these kind of marches
seem to create and despite the overcast sky the streets
were crowded with people from all walks of life.
However, as i stood there waving my flag, smiling and
cheering with the rest of the crowd i couldn't help
wondering if there will ever come a time when BDSM will
have the same support. When my lifestyle choices won't
be something best kept secret.
"Things are changing for us too" i thought to myself -
but are they really?
Sure, fetish is in fashion and that has helped a great
deal in breaking down the stigma and fears surrounding
negative SM imagery (typical "gimp" style). But i can't
help wondering how much this really does help us out?
Fashions change and while we are riding high on being
fashionable right now - what happens when it becomes
less fashionable to be into SM - and the "in crowd"
suddenly finds itself out on it's ass?
The same laws exist that could be used to persecute us
and nothing's really changed in that respect. It is
still not wise to talk too openly about what it is we do
- even less wise to keep evidence (no matter how much we
would like to keep a pictorial record of how brave we were
during this or that particular scene).
Call me a worrier - but i am concerned about a
government pushing hard for us all to carry ID cards, i
am concerned about the current trend of having to keep
lists of legitimate names and addresses of BDSM club
members in order to appease some or other legislation. i
am concerned about how easy it is to fall into a false
sense of security about such things - when in very real
terms there exists no security in what we do.
Not to take anything away from Pride 2004 - they should
all be proud - we should all be proud of them. Over the
years some hard battles have been fought to win the
right to be true to themselves and their fight is still
Ours, on the other hand, has barely just begun.
i hope i will live to see the day when the freedom to
choose a life which includes BDSM does not have to be
shrouded in secrecy, stigma or contempt from others. i
hope one day we too can share in celebrating who and
what we are.
Edited Sun 29 Aug 04, 6:23 PM by lili