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Who hid all the common courtesy?
Posted by lili on Sun 17 Oct 04, 8:31 PM
For the first time in what must be - well - years -
i got hit on in irc with what was very almost an a/s/l
question (do people still do that?)
I've also had more than a few approaches from people
through yahoo messenger who start off with a half decent
conversation that soon falls into the familar a/s/l format.
Now, don't get me wrong - i'm not generally down on
using irc or messenger etc as a way to meet potential
partners. Infact in many ways i think its a very good
way to first make contact with different people. What i
do find objectionable is the way using these instant
messenger-type programs seem to strip people of common
i blame the software programmers myself. Afterall, it
must be something hard wired into the systems
themselves, because i'm sure these people, were i to
meet them face to face, would be wonderfully polite and
entirely courteous. Afterall, first impressions count
for so much don't they?
Maybe its just a general sign of the times. We hear so
often about antisocial behaviour, road rage, "look after
number one" type mentalities. So many people don't seem
to have the time or inclination to look beyond their own
desires, to slow down, to open thier eyes to the people
and things around them. Too busy getting stressed in
their single minded pursuit of self gratification.
There is alot to be said for taking the time to talk to
someone, for actually listening to what they have to say
and for thinking about what you say in return. Like it
or not, how you appear to others is important and if it
is that you are out there looking for that someone
special, chances are your going to meet quite alot of
other people on your way. Why not take a few minutes to
leave a good impression with them, rather than building
yourself a reputation of someone singlemindedly pursuing
the type of self gratification that is generally better
known for making you go "blind".
Edited Wed 26 Dec 07, 1:13 PM by lili