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This piece was written in February 2001 and originally posted to my old
weblog on MasterSlave.org.uk.
At one end, "Jacobean TPE" (for want of a better name)
argues that it's impossible to pursue multiple simultaneous M/s
relationships and that any "genuinely dominant man"
instinctively knows this.
At the other end, the Obey-or-Leave school of thought believes that
acknowledging any limitation on what a Master can do means the submissive
isn't a slave. Hence, if the Master wants polygyny and the slave can't cope
with that, then it's her problem.
Personally, I try to take to a pragmatic view of things, and to look
at the practical consequences of, say, a Master trying to own two slaves
at the same time. In particular, what obstacles does this present to the
whole Enslavement process?
And I think the main one is: how does a Master maintain the trust that
is essential to gaining access to the slave's Self, if he has another
slave which she perceives as a possible substitute? So my feeling is
rather like the Koran's statement on wives, which is roughly that yes you
can have four, but only if you can treat them all equally (and you will
lose them if you don't.) What to substitute for the word
"equally" in the case of slaves, is the question I want to address
Evolutionary Psychology gives some clues about all of this.
Indeed, there is a "smoking gun" implicit in the approximate
patterns of jealousy shown by the two sexes: women tend to be jealous of
rivals for their man's emotions; men tend also to be jealous due to sexual
If you think about this in terms of reproductive success, then a
possible explanation becomes clear: once they've "paired off",
men and women tend to invest the same amount of effort in supporting
and/or caring for their offspring. In doing this, a woman is necessarily
helping copies of her own genes to survive (ie in the children), but a man
is only doing this if they really are his children (ie that he hasn't been
This would suggest that men should be instinctively more concerned
about their "woman" having sex with other men. Whereas, for
women, the only danger in their "man" having relations with
other women is that he will begin to divert resources into supporting them
too, or even that she will lose him completely (and have to support her
Furthermore, it benefits his gene's chance of survival if he
does have other relationships, especially if he can get any
resulting children supported "for free" by some other unwitting
dupe. (Whereas if she does this and is caught, then she risks being
deserted and being unable to bring up the children alone.)
So the above arguments suggest that there is a strong, instinctive
basis to these feelings of jealousy in women as far as non-casual
relationships go. The relationships we're talking about here are very much
that type, so it should be no suprise that very many people attemping to
pursue polygynous enslavement would face this problem.
(Of course, I want to stress how much of a broad brush all of this is.
Naturally, there are going to be exceptions. It may even be the case that
M/s people are just so unusual none of the above applies ;)
How could a Master deal with this? I think that depends on what counts
for "support" in the relationship. Are we talking about physical
resources, attention, or love? If the slave isn't secure that she will
receive as much as she needs, then she will begin to "close",
start to erect barriers, and withdraw from the whole Enslavement process.
I'm quite sceptical that many Masters have enough resources
(especially of time) to successfully maintain more than one woman in
enslavement, but I don't see that it's absolutely impossible in favourable
Last updated 12 June 2001.